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You may find several changes in your daily routine, such as spending time with each parent separately, new living and school arrangements. Changes are normal and can feel unsettling at first.
It is okay. With time, you’ll find your groove again.
It may be challenging and take time for you and your family to accept, adjust and adapt. There’s no rulebook for how long it takes to feel “okay” again.
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Some days may feel harder than others, and that's completely normal, here are tips that may help you handle some of the changes and challenges.
Give yourself the time and space for adjustment
You may be going back and forth between homes or meeting new people; give yourself time to learn and get used to the new environment.
You may also want to discuss the changes to expect with your parent(s).
Keep track of your new routines using a calendar.
Decorate your own space in each home with comforting and favourite items.
You don’t have to rush yourself or feel like you need to ‘get over it’ quickly. This is your journey. it’s okay to take as long as you need.
Speak Up
You don’t have to “take sides” or decide “who is right or wrong”. Even though your parents argue, they still love you very much.
It can be confusing or upsetting when you hear about your parents’ divorce. When you feel safe, pick a time to ask your parent(s) your questions.
You may worry about upsetting others or “making things worse”, but your feelings matter. Letting them know what you need can help you feel more understood and supported through this process.
And if you’re not ready to talk just yet, that’s okay too. Write down your thoughts, draw or take small steps to express yourself. Just remember that you don’t have to go through this alone.
Your parents may argue because they disagree, but they are adults, and they can handle their disagreements by themselves. They can reach out to the professionals to receive the support they need and to help them sort out their differences.
You may feel caught in between your parents’ arguments or that you have to pick one over the other.
Remember, you don’t have to pick sides, and you can love both parents.
Talk with people you trust
Talking to someone you trust can help sort your feelings and thoughts out and make you feel better. It may also help you see things differently and understand your situation and yourself better.
Focus on what you can control
The feeling of not being in control can be overwhelming, but there are things you can control. Stay focused on your personal goals and the little things that make you feel better. This gives you a sense of purpose and direction, a place to redirect your focus.
It is also helpful to keep up with your daily activities, including school, hobbies, and socialising, as routine can provide stability.